Saturday, March 28, 2015

Are Children Born with Autism?

What is Autism?

Autism or Autism spectrum Disorder(s) are developmental brain abnormalities.
A diagnosis of autism, or it's closely related spectrum disorders, indicates that a child has a genetic, neurological disorder that will be prevalent throughout life and in varying degrees of severity.

The Autism Spectrum

A child diagnosed with autism or any disorder on the spectrum of autism such as Asperger's or Pervasive Developmental Disorder has issues with social interactions, verbal and non-verbal communications, and often engage in repetitive behaviors.

Monday, March 16, 2015

I am a Godless Parent. Are You?

"It's good to believe in God". 
"It's good to do God's work". 
"Don't question God he is all knowing and all mighty". 
"God has a reason for everything". 

Yada. Yada. Yada. It's hogwash.

Call me a Godless heathen. 
Call me an Atheist.
Call me Agnostic. 

But I simply call myself  a Godless parent. 

After reading an article entitled Godless Parents are Doing a Better Job I felt less alone in the world of being a Godless parent. It was surprising, educational, and made me comfortable knowing I am not alone in the religious choices, or lack there of, I have made for my children. 

I know what I want for my children in their time on earth...

  • I want my children to behave. Not because God says so. Because it's the right thing to do.
  • I want my children to feel empathetic and sympathize. Again not because God says so or because they are being judged. But because it's the right thing to do. It's the humane thing to do. It needs no reason. 
  • I want my children to think out of the box. To accept differences among individuals and to understand that those differences are not guided by a God. They are simply guided by diversity and an ever changing, yet evolving world. Be who you are and accept others for who they are. 
  • I want my children to live their lives. Not guided by what's considered right or wrong from a book. I want them to accept themselves and their peers because that's what you do. That's the right thing to do. 
  • I want my children to follow whatever beliefs they have or will develop over their lifetimes. If they choose a religious path I will support them 100%. I want them to have the capabilities to think on their own and see things in the world without a jaded view of what a God wants or believes to be right.
  • I want them to live happy, healthy lives sure of themselves. Simply because that's what life is all about. 

Holidays around here a celebration of family with no religious undertones. 

Of course if you are a religious person. Good for you. Just like I don't want to be judged for my choices I will not judge you. 

Megan's 6th birthday
I stand firm in my decisions, and while my kids do attend Sunday school with their Papa on a semi-regular basis; I agree to it so they can have a well rounded world. So they can see what religion is like. So they can get a glimpse into the religious world and know if it's the right world for them. They also own children's Bibles to read or look through at their leisure. 

But when my 6 year old asks me "mommy, do you believe in God?" I  ask "do you believe in God?" And when she says "yes" I smile and say "that's all that matters." 


"If a man would follow today the teachings of the Old Testament, he would be a criminal. If he followed strictly teachings from the New Testament he would be insane."  - Robert Green Ingersoll


-a Godless parent. 


Godless Parenting Resources


Wednesday, December 24, 2014

A Sudden Nasty Attitude Can Be Contributed to Guilt....

Have you ever been the victim of someone with a nasty attitude? Is there a good reason to feel that there is guilt behind it?

Of course there is.

See people like to suppress their feelings of guilt then they like to take that guilt out on the one's they feel guilty towards.

Why?

Well quite frankly it's a defense mechanism. They don't want to feel guilty anymore. They begin to nit pick and just become real UN-freaking-pleasant to be around. Just so that they can calm their feelings of guilt and reassure themselves that what they did, have done, or are thinking of doing isn't as bad as their conscious is making it out to be. Surely their actions were justified because you did XYZ.

Yep. Guilt.

For instance: You've been in a relationship with someone for a long time. Suddenly they seem to be a jerk. They are biting your head off or just make your life miserable by nit picking  at everything you do. Even if it's the same stuff you've done in the past. But yet they seem annoyed by it?

It's guilt. 100%.

So if someone's attitude has done a 180 - that's enough reason to believe there's feelings of guilt behind the switch-a-roo.

Talk it out. Or let it go. Either way don't let it affect you as a person.

It's them. Not you.