Wednesday, December 24, 2014

A Sudden Nasty Attitude Can Be Contributed to Guilt....

Have you ever been the victim of someone with a nasty attitude? Is there a good reason to feel that there is guilt behind it?

Of course there is.

See people like to suppress their feelings of guilt then they like to take that guilt out on the one's they feel guilty towards.


Well quite frankly it's a defense mechanism. They don't want to feel guilty anymore. They begin to nit pick and just become real UN-freaking-pleasant to be around. Just so that they can calm their feelings of guilt and reassure themselves that what they did, have done, or are thinking of doing isn't as bad as their conscious is making it out to be. Surely their actions were justified because you did XYZ.

Yep. Guilt.

For instance: You've been in a relationship with someone for a long time. Suddenly they seem to be a jerk. They are biting your head off or just make your life miserable by nit picking  at everything you do. Even if it's the same stuff you've done in the past. But yet they seem annoyed by it?

It's guilt. 100%.

So if someone's attitude has done a 180 - that's enough reason to believe there's feelings of guilt behind the switch-a-roo.

Talk it out. Or let it go. Either way don't let it affect you as a person.

It's them. Not you.

Tuesday, December 23, 2014

Florida Marriage Equality, Greenberg Traurig, and the Treasure Coast...

As some of you may know I am in a committed lesbian relationship. We reside in Florida on the Treasure Coast . We have been together for 4 years and while our time together is short compared to many other discriminated LGBT couples we still want to get married ASAP.

Some of you may know that Floridians had some amazing feats take place recently in the ongoing fight for marriage equality.
Broward county judge, Robert Hinkle, was a large part of this process. Hinkle granted a divorce to a lesbian couple and this opened the opportunity to finally bring full marriage equality rights to Florida -  a right that has been long coming. With the divorce granted Hinkle set a date allowing opposing parties to repeal. That date being January 5, 2015.

Governor Rick Scott and Attorney General Pam Bondi

Of course Florida Governor Rick Scott and his side kick attorney general Pam Bondi oppose marriage equality so they did their best to stop it from happening by requesting a stay.

Their request for a stay was denied. 

It became apparent that the state would be issuing licenses to same sex couples they had denied for so long.

Then "pro-marriage equality", Miami based law firm, Greenberg Traurig decided to issue a memo
to Florida clerks - urging them the ruling was only for the specific county mentioned in the court case and that any clerks who issues a license to same sex couples, even after the stay expired, could face prosecution.

Now that you have some of the back story I must share my feelings on this issue that hits so close to home for myself and many other LGBT citizens in Florida....

Go Florida and supporting government agencies. You finally realized it's time to let it all go and move forward with marriage equality. It's about damn time you realized this was a never ending battle and that you would lose in the end. As for Pam Bondi and Rick Scott - all I can say is thank goodness there is someone that has the ultimate say regarding their bigoted personal opinions.

Now to Greenberg & Traurig...

But first a spinet of their memo from their Co-President Hilarie Bass :

"The denial of the stay by the U.S. Supreme Court does not change our advice to the Florida Association of Court Clerks & Comptrollers that Judge Hinkle’s ruling only applies to the Washington County clerk,” Hilarie Bass, Greenberg Traurig’s Miami-based co-president, said in a statement. “The denial of a stay is not a ruling on the merits of the marriage-equality issue.”

Bass continued: “Florida law continues to prohibit a clerk from issuing a marriage license to a same-gender couple and provides criminal sanctions for doing so. Our legal advice cannot be affected by assurances that certain law enforcement authorities might not take action to prosecute violators of the criminal statute.”

Read more here:
Seriously? I mean seriously? You claim to be pro marriage equality but felt it necessary to cause more confusion by issuing that memo? The higher ups are realizing and letting go - they see they can't win. Regardless of what laws your quoting - no damn judge is going to uphold any request to prosecute a law abiding county clerk should he or she decide to issue a license. NOT ONE. At best the clerks that follow your "memo" will have their day ruined by legalities and when it comes in front of a judge - all charges will be dropped. Are you kidding me? Your legal advice, or lack thereof, puts county clerks in a dangerous hard place.

“Any Florida clerk who refuses to follow the Constitution's command and who withholds marriage licenses from couples once the stay expires is on the wrong side of history and the wrong side of the law,” said Shannon Minter, Legal Director for the National Center for Lesbian Rights. “A discredited memo from a law firm won't provide much protection against the risk of being sued for unconstitutional actions and being held liable for any damages —  and attorney fees — incurred by couples as a result of withholding the freedom to marry. There is one Constitution, Florida is one state, and all Floridians are entitled to equal treatment throughout the state.”

So now wait. If clerks issue same sex couples marriage licenses they could be prosecuted. And if they don't - they will be prosecuted? And exactly whose interests are you looking out for? I'm confused.

To add further insult to injury my own county, the Treasure Coast, is being ridiculous.

Not that I'm surprised they are erring on the side of what they believe to be safe. But here's my question to you Treasure Coast Clerk of Courts Joseph E. Smith. Do you think people will not drive to the counties that support it?

Please take a walk with me...

Gay and lesbians residing in Florida have been waiting DECADES for this type of decision. The stay was denied which means on 1/6/15 every couple that has been waiting for equal rights and marriage equality will be lined up at courthouses across the state. Well they will be lined up at the select few courthouses that are granting the licenses- of course uniformity across the state is of no issue. And those counties that are granting licenses will be MOBBED. So mobbed that in fact their will be need for security at them. There will be many right wing, bigot, protesters outside claiming the end is near, there will be many excited, in love citizens waiting to marry their partner and then what happens? Fights, chaos, riots, etc.

The fight to marriage equality in Florida has been a long hard road for those directly effected by it. Just stop. The stupidity and blame game is mind numbing. It's going to happen. It's going to be state wide and delaying it an hour, a week, or a year is POINTLESS. 

Florida Marriage Equality.
If Florida would just get their heads out of their asses they would realize the LARGE amount of money they stand to make and save by allowing already cohabiting, committed, LGBT couples the
same rights they grant heterosexuals. 

This is a topic near and dear to my heart for many reasons. However, I am also pro common sense. Let me say that the stupidity that the state of Florida, Governor Rick Scott,attorney Pam Bondi , and Greenberg & Trauig are perpetuating by their stall tactics is a disgrace to everyone in Florida. 

Enough is enough. Just stop. Pull your heads out of your asses. Find a fight that's worth fighting. 

Wednesday, November 5, 2014

Florida Says No to Medical Marijuana Margin of 3%.

Marijuana in it's natural form.

Medical marijuana took a hit in Florida yesterday. As the vote tally's began rolling in it seemed the state was almost equally divided on the issue. But at the end of the night Florida voters were staring at a slim 3% margin needed to get the majority vote of 60%. In the end, Amendment two sunk, and was not passed.

What get's me about the whole issue is that people are prescribed Marinol, a drug with the main healing/helping ingredient being THC, also the main ingredient in "street" marijuana. But somehow it's unsafe to use on one's own terms. A Dr. must prescribe it, a pharmacy must take their cut, and then you can use it - legally.
Marinol 2.5 mg

It's stupid in my book.

The pharmaceutical companies are taking things, altering them, and then turning a serious profit at the cost of public healthcare. So in essence they are telling us that the key ingredients which were once considered "all natural" are  altered until they are"safe"? Does that even make sense? Altering all natural to be safe?

Let that sink in....

Homegrown tomatoes. 
If you think about it it's like creating a vegetable garden, in your own yard,  and the government saying - "Hey wait a minute, you can't do that. You must buy produce from the stores. What you are doing is illegal and carries a $500 fine and up to 30 days in jail. Now hand over your home grown tomatoes.Here eat these genetically modified one's instead. That will be $2.00".

Sounds ignorant.

Oregon, Alaska, and DC now join the ranks where marijuana is legal for recreational use. Again Florida is behind the curve of a nation.

What's your take on medical marijuana? 

More on medical marijuana:

Marijuana: Oregon and DC Legalize. Florida says No to Medical Marijuana.  

Florida Parent's Fight to help Help Children Suffering from Seizures

Florida Governor Signs Law allowing Limited Medical Marijuana Use

Are Marijuana and Schizophrenia Linked?